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My jaw has hit the ground and gone through to the earth's crust. The man is seriously off his trolley - but also very dangerous. Thank goodness you have a partner and many friends and supporters to be there for you, but the process most decidedly is the punishment. Wishing you a very quiet year.

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It is hilarious, looking back, now all the allegations have been dropped. It was not so funny at the time, with the police saying they were coming to arrest me, maybe in front of my children, and then the threat of first prosecution and prison and then bankruptcy hanging over my head. For nearly two years. I've had my name dragged through the mud in the Irish press too, as well as in that rag, Pink News. It's definitely been interesting.

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And on "the process is the punishment," yes - it has been a bit of a nightmare, all round. Explaining to my children that being arrested doesn't mean you've done anything wrong, the police can arrest people and just want to talk to them, and that their aunt would come get them if that happened, that wasn't fun. It's had its impacts on my life outside that too. But it has shown me who I am. I'll be grateful for that all my life.

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Mar 1, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

Madness. Harassment. Surprised he didn’t acuse you of using up too much oxygen. Needs to go on Twitter. What a foolish, foolish penis haver.

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Complete madness - it is the complicity of his lawyers that was so shocking to me. The silliest accusations came after their involvement. They threatened on one memorable occasion to get an emergency injunction against me - because I sent documents to an address they had previously told me to send documents to. Madness.

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Mar 1, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

Wow, how come he is not under some kind of restraining order. He is obviously unhinged, needs a psychiatric assessment which I feel may reveal a sociopathic/ psychopathic diagnosis.

It is quite amazing that the law allows this to proceed, it should have a cut off point. I am so sorry to hear what you have been through.

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Mar 1, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

You've been busy!

He was right about the pillow business, though. I prefer a harder pillow and wishing me a soft one would be hateful conduct.

Well done and thank you for standing up to the bully, not that there was much likelihood of your doing anything else. I'm glad you can relax a bit.

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I'm able to genuinely laugh about it now, which is progress! And you're right - if anybody else is thinking of suing me in anticipation of my backing down they had maybe better think again 😂

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Mar 1, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

He should have added "fannying about on yachts". I always add that to any list of accusations on general principle.

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LOL, I forgot my fleet of golden yachts. Ironically, the trolls accusing me of being massively rich have actually done me a massive favour - they have essentially emboldened him and his lawyers, by making them think that there's anything financial here to go after. In reality, had I lost, I would have had to go bankrupt and he would have got some money, not nothing worth going to law over. Certainly no golden yachts.

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It breaks my heart that you have suffered this. It must have been horrendous for you and your family. Keep strong, Ceri.

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Thank you very much. I feel VERY much better now it's over and he's exhausted his options. Any subsequent action by him will be, I'm fairly certain, laughed at. It's been a bit of a wild ride altogether. The impacts, I am absolutely determined, will be short term only. And there's work to do now. Shoulder to the wheel.

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Your courage is inspirational. Thank you for everything you do.

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Thank you lovely. x

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Mar 1, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

Preposterous list of twaddle. But what a waste of your time, energy and emotion to have to deal with it. Pleased the threat of proceedings is now in the past.

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How pathetic . All the best Ceri.

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It really is pathetic, isn't it? A real toddler tantrum. "I hate you and you are stupid and you smell like elderberries and I'm going to tell on you!"

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Mar 1, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

Can’t imagine what level of ridiculoussness and insanity his costs must have reached (or who might be paying them) that caused him to give up his legal vendetta, but thankfully somebody, somewhere, must’ve seen a little sense. The whole thing was a surreal nightmare, and potentially very damaging to you and those who love you. It was pointless, unhinged, and odious behaviour which brought no benefit to anyone. I’m glad you’re clear of it, I really am. 💋

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The funny thing is that it's him that's seen sense - he's just discontinued his action. One look at my defence and he lost his appetite for litigation.

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Mar 1, 2023·edited Mar 1, 2023

Your letter to him was brilliant -- not the British washed-down, non-intellectual brilliant, but the real brilliant. I feel as sure as a lay-person can be that the letter led directly (though belatedly) to his discontinuation. You're amazing for having put up with this and for so long.

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Mar 1, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

Thought that too. But then it’s a profession unredeemed by ethical persuasion.

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That's a very nice way of putting it. LOL.

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Every unhinged accusation certainly makes me think projection and admission. Or else, why the illogical emotionally-driven vehemence behind his bonkers claims about you Ceri? Happy you're finally out of his legally-sanctioned shadow. Love ya.

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"That I have accused Paisley of being a paedophile enabler."

Well, if the shoe fits...

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Mar 1, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

Amazing!

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This is insanity! What a horrible man to put you through this!

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Mar 2, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

He is absolutely bonkers! I can't believe he thought he could make any of that actually stick!

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Mar 2, 2023Liked by Ceri Black

Godalmighty! That is absolutely crazy!

I really really wouldn’t like to be Paisley.... he doesn’t seem to be at all well.

So relieved for you ❤️

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